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Join the SPARKteam!

by Seila Rizvic

As SPARK has continued to grow over the past few years, we’ve gotten tons of requests from girls asking how they can become a part of our organization. Well here’s the moment you’ve been waiting for: SPARK is looking for new members to join our team!

If you are interested in becoming a part of an international group of girls who come together to fight against negative depictions of women in media, SPARK is the place for you. SPARK has been the force behind massive nationwide petitions against Seventeen Magazine and LEGO, as well as bringing our voice to the national conversation on sexual assault on high school and college campuses. These petitions have brought in a combined total of over 200,000 signatures, in addition to coverage across nearly all the major news outlets, including CNN, ABC News, Huffington Post, and NPR.

What can SPARK offer you?

  • A supportive environment of girls and women who love to collaborate, communicate ideas and support each other.
  • The chance to learn how to plan and execute both local and national activist campaigns.
  • Writing experience! You’ll be a published blogger with a repertoire of online work.
  • Online trainings and workshops to help you hone your feminist knowledge.
  • Real and valuable experience in the world of activism.
  • The opportunity to make your voice heard.
  • Money! We pay $25 per blog/action.

What should you offer us?

We’re looking for enthusiastic activists who:

  • are between the ages of 13 and 22.
  • have great writing skills and an interest in blogging and organizing.
  • are passionate about fighting back against sexualization of girls and women in media.
  • have between 15 and 25 hours a month to dedicate to SPARK.

My own experience at SPARK over the past two years has been incredible. The people that I have had the privilege to work with and the opportunities I have had presented to me are incomparable with any other job I’ve had in the past.  My fellow SPARKteam members were supportive and inspiring, the leadership is incredibly dedicated, and our projects are ambitious and always exciting. Not to mention how rewarding our work is! There is nothing like the satisfaction of seeing petition signatures grow exponentially overnight, or of watching your fellow SPARKteammates doing interviews on national TV or, best of all, the excitement of finally receiving the news that your campaign was a success.

No matter your level of experience, SPARK is a great place (the greatest place?) to come and develop the activist skills necessary to create change in the world. Apply! Download the application here (in .doc form) and send it to sparkteam@sparksummit.com by SUNDAY, MAY 19th! Good luck!

UPDATE: due to overwhelming demand, we’re extending the application deadline to FRIDAY, MAY 24th, at MIDNIGHT EST. Get those apps in!

 

Want to take action with SPARK but don’t have the time to commit to the SPARKteam? Click here to join the SPARK Action Squad!

Women’s History Year: Who Influences You?

by Shavon L. McKinstry

What women have inspired you or changed your life? And why do we only talk about the during Women’s History Month?

SPARK’s new ongoing monthly project, Women’s History Year, seeks to change the way we talk about women, whether they’re famous historical figures or friends, by asking the people to describe and discuss the women who inspire them. The goal of this project is to create dialogue and promote thought about the women who have molded you, who have shaped the course of your life, have inspired you to reach new goals, or have just made you proud to know them.

Please join us in this endeavor! Make a video of your, your friends, your family, or (if you’re brave) complete strangers talking about the women of the past and present who have had an influence on them. Upload the video to YouTube and send us the link at sparkteam at sparksummit.com.

This month, the Influential Women project was filmed on location at the Syracuse University quad. Watch it below:

Indoor Kid: an Interview with Emily Gordon

by Alice Wilder

Emily Gordon is a writer, comedy producer, and former family and couples’ therapist, and listening to her podcasts feels a little like free therapy. For me as a teenager, Emily is this reassurance that everything is going to be okay. I mean, she dated a cult member in high school and is now happily married! She co-hosts the podcast Indoor Kids, produces the Meltdown, and writes for Rookie Mag. Here are some of my fave pieces of her work from Rookie:

on rituals (religious and otherwise)
on communication
on sexuality and sex
on sexism & gaming culture

Recently, I got to ask her some questions about feminism, comedy, and the Internet:

Were you a feminist as a teenager?

No. I was almost anti-feminist. I was an awkward-looking teenager who liked to hang with the boys and be cool, and I would look at the “cutesy” girls in my high school in their adorable dresses and think, “I am nothing like them.” In truth, I just didn’t feel confident enough in myself to wear dresses and flirt, but in my head, I turned it into “cool girls vs cutesy girls.” I expressly refused to wear skirts or clothes that fit. I wouldn’t do anything that would be considered “girlie.” It’s not that I wasn’t fun to be around, I just thought that the only way to be truly accepted by all the cool dudes in my life was to hide the fact that I was a girl. This is why I’m so fond of sites like Hello Giggles and Rookie–sites that embrace the girliness of being female, without sacrificing any of the feminist values.

It wasn’t until late college that I started thinking of myself as a feminist (SO LATE!). Until then I was like “It’s everyone for themselves– why should I support other women?” That being said, me being an anti-girlie, tough girl in combat boots and huge band shirts didn’t go over super well. I would often be told that I could be pretty if I wanted to, which just made me dig my heels in deeper.

It seems stupid now, but I think it was the path I had to take to arrive at being a feminist.

Was there a certain moment when you decided to reject the perfect southern lady facade?

Well, not one moment. And I didn’t even realize how much I’d embraced the perfect southern lady facade, on my own terms, until I was in my 20s. It was when I got really ill and had to be hospitalized that I realized how much I’d been faking being well around my friends and boyfriend. Why? Why was I trying to hard to convince the people closest to me that everything was fine when it clearly wasn’t? Would they really reject me? Would they walk away from me if they knew I was sick? Getting really sick helped shake up my beliefs and start taking care of myself and be more honest about myself to others. It’s still a problem sometimes, in fact. I have to continually remind myself to be honest and open about how I’m feeling and whether or not the people around me deserve (rather than “can handle”) knowing that I am not perfect.

Could you talk a little about your work with domestic violence survivors and perpetrators?

When I was in graduate school I did two practica (one step below interning- you are more there to assist than to actually do stuff yourself) in DV. For the first one, I worked as a court advocate, helping to support women who showed up to testify against their husbands and boyfriends who were on trial for DV. Offering resources, reassuring them that they would be safe, being their cheerleaders–testifying against someone you love must be incredibly different.

For the second practicum, I helped out at a court-ordered therapy group for men who had been convicted of DV. I mostly observed but spoke up a bit to help lead the group by the end of the experience. That was extremely eye opening. I wanted to believe I had been understanding of what survivors of DV had gone through, but working with perpetrators taught me that I had actually been pretty close-minded. These men were charming, witty, rich, poor–there were a million types of them, but none of them were people that I would have looked at and thought “Oh, he’s a batterer.” It helped me have more empathy for the female survivors. It really can happen to anyone.

You’re pretty active online and open about your life. How do you deal with negativity and invasion of privacy online? Do you find some of it to be specific to your gender?

Well, the basics are that I like myself (and that’s been a journey in itself), so there’s really nothing you can say to me that I haven’t said to myself and then dismissed. I also just try not to engage. If someone is being shitty to me in YouTube comments or on Twitter, my first step is to try to shame them with kindness, and my second step (which I often start with) is to just ignore. Sometimes I’ll retweet shitty comments so that their lame shitty message reaches my followers, not just me. If it gets bad, I block. A lot of comments I get are about my gender or my appearance, but it’s nothing that makes me want to a) stop being active online or b) stop being a woman. It feels kinda hack when YouTube comments are filled with people talking not about [Indoor Kids co-host] Kumail‘s performance but my appearance, even though I know he’s funnier than me, but there are worse problems in the world.

If there’s a day that gets really intense, I close my computer and go outside. The online world is huge, but it’s not your real life. It’s good to remember that sometimes.

A lot of your writing is about personal relationships or experiences. How do you decide which parts of your life to share with the world and which to keep private? Has there ever been a time where you regretted sharing something online or in a public setting?

Hmmm. Well, sometimes I am uncomfortable with the stuff that I share online, but if I’m writing an essay or talking about something important to me, I do it anyway. Taking risks is always important. As a therapist, I learned that self-disclosure should only happen with a client if it’s in service to the client (and not just because you want to “tell your tale”), and I try to keep that in mind in my writing. I’m pretty strict about the boundaries I do set online. If I am telling a story about myself, I will sometimes keep a few details just to myself- even if they would make the story better, those are the parts that belong to me. I parse things out like that. I also picture my Mom or my sister, the two women I’m closest to, reading or listening to what I’m saying. I’m very open and silly with them, but if I can see it hurting them, I won’t say it/write it.

We edit out stuff on our podcast that either of us feel uncomfortable with. There was a whole run of stuff on the James Gunn podcast that was really funny but way too personal. Of course I have regretted saying stuff online or on a podcast or whatever, but once it’s out there, it’s out there, and all you can do is accept it. And move on.

Although you’re not a comedian per se, you work in comedy. Do have a “feminism and writing Emily” and a “Meltdown comedy/Indoor Kids Emily,” or do they intersect?

Hmmm, good question. I hope they always intersect. They’re all pieces of me, and for many years the feminist part of me might have been compartmentalized and separated from “work me” or “relationship me” or “comedy me,” but the older you get, the more all those pieces start melting together. But that doesn’t mean that I try to be militant in all areas of my life. I can laugh at misogynist jokes if they’re in context and funny; I can watch someone be a self-destructive mess on stage and not feel the need to “fix” them. Comedy helps me not take things so seriously, writing helps me know myself more, and feminism helps me see the world in an inclusive, bigger-picture way. It’s not my job to force you to see my perspective, it’s my job to live my perspective.

Girls of All Ages Need Access to Emergency Contraception

by Anya Josephs

There’s a medicine that, in half a century of use, has been linked to a grand total of zero deaths or serious complications. It’s safer than aspirin. Physicians willingly admit that their advice is not needed for it to be taken correctly. The largest organization of pediatricians in the nation is urging its members to pre-write prescriptions for patients who may need it, because it’s so safe they believe everyone should have access without visiting a doctor.

This medicine is often desperately needed. It must be taken within a specific 120 hour period in order to be effective. It prevents a condition that can be devastating to the people it affects, especially young people, who are more likely to develop depression, drop out of school, and even die. Furthermore, if young people can’t get this medicine when they need it, they are more likely to spend their lives in poverty, never marry, and have their kids end up in jail.

So why has the supposedly progressive Obama administration repeatedly spoken out against making this medicine available over-the-counter to young people, even after a federal judge ruled that girls under seventeen must be given access to this medicine? Why would the president go against all scientific evidence and say that the medicine “could be dangerous if misused”?

Because the medicine is emergency contraception, the medical condition it treats is pregnancy, and Americans are terrified of teenage girls being in control of their own sexuality.

Saying that girls can’t take a medication safely is patronizing and inaccurate: the research overwhelmingly proves that teens can safely take this medicine without a doctor’s supervision. The real reason for keeping girls away from the safe and necessary ability to access emergency contraception is the familiar cultural panic over teenage girls’ sexuality.

It’s time for some real talk with SPARK: teenage girls have sexual desires. Not all of them, and not all those who do choose to act on them. Our culture makes it hard to talk about, but it’s true: a large majority of girls have the desire to have sex before they turn seventeen. [Ed. note: SPARK co-founder Deb Tolman literally wrote the book on this!] 

Just like lying to teenage girls about the consequences of sexual activity, not teaching them how to use condoms, or slut-shaming in general, keeping emergency birth control away from girls isn’t going to stop them from having sex. Just look at the failure of abstinence-only sex ed–keeping girls from safe sex isn’t going to keep them away from sex altogether. Yes, it’s possible that keeping necessary birth control away from teenagers might make for slightly fewer sexually active teenagers, maybe, but it will definitely make for more pregnant teenagers—and we can all agree that that’s something we want to avoid.

Plenty of teenagers can’t just get to the doctor on their own. Most teenagers under seventeen don’t have drivers’ licenses and cars, and in many parts of the country, that means they’re relying on parents for transportation. Parents may be disapproving or upset to find out their children are sexually active—some may refuse to get their children emergency contraception, kick them out of the home, or turn physically violent. Protecting teenage girls  means protecting them from these things, not from the ability to access contraception.

A staggering number of girls—1 in 4—are victims of sexual assault before the age of 18. Why revictimize these girls by forcing them to go through their parents and then a doctor to get emergency contraception? We should be doing everything we can to protect these most vulnerable girls—and that means keeping them safe from unwanted pregnancy after the trauma of sexual assault.

And all that aside, it’s not like girls under 17 are being “protected” from anything when it comes to sexuality. As we’ve been documenting for years at SPARK, girls are objectified by the media and seen as sexual objects at younger and younger ages. Teenage girls are considered fair game for sexy ads–models younger than 17 are posed in provocative ways, or adult women dressed up like little girls. There are dozens of popular TV shows depicting teenage sexual activity, often with a focus on boys pushing girls into sexual activity, and little girls compete in reality shows wearing nothing but bikinis. The government doesn’t seem to think it’s necessary to protect girls from these images of sexuality, but when it comes to making REAL choices, like taking safety precautions for their bodies and sexual health, suddenly girls need “protecting” from themselves. What?

The way to deal with teen sexuality is not to ignore it. It’s to educate teenagers about how to have safe sex and expand access to contraception as much as possible. Placing artificial barriers between the most vulnerable population of sexually active women—girls under seventeen—and desperately needed birth control is misogynistic, hypocritical, and ultimately destructive. The “negative” effects of sex—unwanted pregnancy, lowered self-esteem, and sexually transmitted infections, to name just a few–are exacerbated by policies like this one, which make safe sex a taboo. Girls who are given accurate information about and easy access to any and all contraceptive methods are able to make informed choices about what is healthy and safe for them, reducing their risk of pregnancy and infection and increasing their ability to feel good about their bodies and themselves. Let’s stop standing in their way.

Advice from Gloria Steinem

by Maya Brown

Last month, I was lucky enough to see Gloria Steinem speak at Colby College.  Her talk was beyond fabulous, and really inspired me as a young activist and a SPARKteam member. It’s hard for me to pick out pieces to highlight because the whole talk was great, but there were three things she said that resonated with me and with our mission here at SPARK.

The first thing she said that really struck me was that when you get down to it, we are all a part of the same movement. Despite people who claim that feminism is dead or isn’t necessary anymore, we, as young feminists are just as important as the suffragettes who made it legal for women to vote, or the women who worked so hard to legalize abortions (and who are still doing so today).  My SPARK sisters and I are a continuation of this one movement dedicated to creating a world where all genders are equal. And, as Gloria Steinem so perfectly put it, all genders will never be equal until there is also racial, ethnic, LGBTQ, and all other forms of equality. In that respect, the feminist movement is linked very closely to all other movements. And while it’s important that we have these separate movements in order to allow everyone to be heard and to work against specific issues, it’s so necessary that we remember this connection and that we actively support one another. Because what we’re all working for is equality for everyone, and many of these movements are inherently connected already. (Plus, as with everything, we all need as much help as we can get.)

She also argued that inequality and oppression against women all comes down to patriarchy attempting to control women’s bodies. She pointed out a multitude of examples, including the fight for reproductive freedom and sexualization in the advertising industry, but even when she was talking about something seemingly unrelated, such as equal pay for equal work, she found a way to link it back to women’s bodies being turned into objects outside of their own control. This showed me without a doubt just how important the work SPARK does is, because that is exactly what we’re fighting against. We want to end women being seen as purely sexual objects made for the purpose of pleasing men. Gloria even did a quick shout-out to Hardy Girls and to SPARK, which was both awesome and super gratifying, because it means that one of the most powerful feminists has got our back.

But the piece of advice that most resonated with me from Gloria Steinem’s talk was broader. To paraphrase, she said to always remember not to live your life like a means to an end, but to live your life like the way you want your life to be. This may sound obvious, but it’s actually pretty deep. She’s saying that instead of hoping that at some point in the future you will be happy or write more or be more successful, just do it now–live your life the way you hope it will someday be. Enjoy the ride instead of focusing on the destination. This too can be applied to SPARK and the feminist movement. It’s important to dream of a better future, and if we’re pointing out sexualization and inequality and encouraging girls to create new media now, we are creating that future. We aren’t working towards some definite end, but we are changing the world by just being here, by doing the work that we do, and by being a positive influence on girls–that’s pretty amazing!

It was fabulous to see Gloria Steinem talk because she is one of the women I most look up to, but also because she really spoke to me and to SPARK. She made me even prouder to be a feminist and to know that I am a part of such a large and important movement with such a rich background. And to hear that she looks up to us young feminists was truly inspiring.

Real Beauty, Real Talk: the SPARKteam Responds to Dove’s Latest Campaign

Have you seen Dove’s latest “Real Beauty” campaign? It’s been making the rounds and causing quite a stir:

The video, which shows women describing themselves as ugly and then other people describing them as beautiful, leading up to a big reveal where we all realize that we are our own worst enemy, is drawing both praise and criticism. And of course, it’s a complicated issue. Below, the SPARKteam weighs in. Leave your own thoughts in the comments!

Celeste: I’m always suspicious of any “real beauty” stuff that Dove puts out, because their ultimate motive is to sell products. They want women to trust their brand so that they’ll spend more money on the company’s stuff; they’re building an image.

Dove is portraying itself as this trail-blazer in a new kind of advertising that makes women feel better about themselves instead of crappy, but they’re not really so different from other companies at all. They’re preying on our insecurities just like anyone else, though perhaps more indirectly. Instead of going, “you’re ugly so you need our products to fix it,” Dove is saying, “we believe you’re beautiful, so you should buy our products instead.” They’re still banking on women wanting to be beautiful (since society says they have to be). Not only does this video take advantage of our desire to be attractive, but also our desire to be TOLD we’re attractive.

I don’t feel like Dove would put these nice messages out there if they didn’t have something to gain. It’s not that Dove actually cares about our feelings, it’s that addressing our insecurities is another tool in their marketing arsenal, a marketing ploy. But regardless of whether Dove is trying to be a positive or negative influence, companies shouldn’t be manipulating my self-esteem for profit in the first place.

Annemarie: Also, even if Dove seems to care about our self-esteem, the brand is owned by Unilever, who also makes the misogynistic Axe advertisements that majorly objectify women. Unilever knows its demographic and how to toy with their desires in order to sell a product. For Dove, it’s boosting women’s confidence in their own beauty; for Axe, it’s boosting men’s confidence in getting action.

Looking at the advertisement again, it’s also tough to watch because I know that not everyone would describe me as beautifully as those strangers featured in the video described the young women. I remember growing up, hearing comments about how my hair was frizzy, my glasses were nerdy, and my overall appearance was just unattractive. Maybe now that I’m older, the stranger describing me to the sketch artist would say kind things about how I look. But maybe they wouldn’t. For those of us who are put down constantly by our looks, whether it’s because we are people of color or LGBTQ or curvy or just not in the constricting box of “beautiful,” we know that the sketch from someone’s else’s description might be even worse than our own.

I love the last line though: “we should spend more time appreciating the things we do like.” No matter how others perceive you, you have to look in the mirror and see what makes you lovely and unique. It’s important to love ourselves, and part of that is learning to love your body. Just remember that it doesn’t need validation from others. It’s beautiful because it’s yours.

Crystal: Just the idea that feeling beautiful (by being gazed upon by others not even your own definition) is like super important to your everyday life & how you treat your kids? No. This is a wreck. And some people AREN’T beautiful and have no interest in being beautiful and that’s okay! Beauty (whatever that ACTUALLY means) should be self-determined; you shouldn’t have to look to others for validation about something you were born with.

Ty: I like Dove’s products. I really do. Their deodorants, lotions, and soaps are far less overpoweringly smelly than many other brands. I appreciate the natural-ness. My liking Dove only further perpetuates my disheartening feelings in regard to their new “Real Beauty Sketches” advertisement.

This video suggests that “loving your body” means realizing that you’re actually skinnier than you think– and focuses largely on people’s perceptions of their weight. It’s sad. The message of this video is “you are more beautiful than you think”—which would be a cool message if Dove spent resources on focusing on inner beauty and not random people’s opinion about how you are skinnier and how your eyes are bluer than you thought this morning.

Not to mention, the message is just plain creepy. Dove is suggesting that a woman’s own acceptance of her beauty needs to be validated by strangers looking at them. Hey how about we teach people to look inside of themselves to find beauty for a change?

Guess what, women come in lots of different shapes, sizes, and colors. There is no such thing as conventional beauty—it’s an idea created by companies for advertising purposes. Beauty has far more to do with personal characteristics than a person’s looks.

So here’s an idea, Dove, how about you change your slogan to “your personality is great,” “your kindness is overwhelming,” or “your empathy is inspiring.”  How about you just change it to anything that does not have to do with physical beauty “validation” from strangers?

Seila: For the most part, I guess that Dove’s “Real Beauty Campaign” is a step in the right direction. It doesn’t use female sexuality to sell its products (kinda), it questions mainstream beauty ideals (sorta) and it uses “regular” women (whatever that means) who actually look like the people they are marketing to as an alternative to airbrushed models. That’s good. But it’s not good enough.

I can’t help but think that this whole idea came out of a focus group where they were able to target a niche market of 15-45 year-olds who they thought might respond positively to this kind of campaign. Sure it’s marketable, but in its quest to be marketable it’s lost any of the credibility it might of had as a piece of feminist media.

My biggest problem with these campaigns is that beauty is still assumed to be a central component of women’s lives. Dove creates a false dichotomy between “real” beauty and “fake” beauty that positions women against each other. It also does very little to question the structural components that force women to become so concerned with beauty in the first place.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how can Dove get away from these implicit beauty-centered marketing ideas. How can we expect them to sell a beauty product without selling the idea of beauty? What if instead of marketing the effect their product is supposed to have, they actually marketed the product. So, instead of implying “Dove will reveal your ‘true’ beauty” they could say “Dove will make your hair soft” or  ”Buy dove if you want to have nice smelling skin.” This puts the focus back on the product and it doesn’t assume the consumer is insecure about how they look or that they want to be more beautiful or that the soft-focus, glowing white world of Dove commercials means anything to them. That is a campaign I could get behind.

YingYing: I recognize that a lot of my teammates critiques are correct, but I can’t deny that watching the Dove videos is inspiring for the less feminism-savvy majority of the population. I think that although Dove’s purpose is to sell a product, they set an excellent model for other beauty companies to emulate: instead of selling us insecurity, Dove tries to affiliate their public image with something positive. Even if sometimes, this positivity can lack the proper amount of sensitivity to issues like fat-shaming and beauty’s affiliation with self-worth, there’s no doubt in my mind that Dove’s branding strategy is a step forward from most of the beauty products out there today.

If we’re looking for girls and women to find real self-esteem, it will take more than a Dove video. But a Dove video on photoshopping can raise an introductory level of awareness about media images. A Dove video on self-image can start the first reminder that perhaps we are too hard on ourselves. It’s obvious that no video is going to solve a population’s or even a person’s insecurities. But if that video reaches one girl who was going to self-harm or one woman who was considering an unhealthy diet to lose weight and dissuades them for even a day, I would say Dove has done good.

Progress comes one step at a time. If we want to a create a society where businesses and media-creators step away from sexualization, we will need forerunners like Dove, warts and all, product-placement and all, to show that yes, self-esteem sells too.